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How to maintain a positive attitude when things are going south

20th July 2020

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We all have those terrible days once in a while. Days when nothing goes as planned and you do a ton of things wrong. Those days test your patience and make you frustrated. But at the same time, those are the days when most of us start to think of negative things. As a human, we need to understand that these rough moments are unavoidable. 

It also means that we need to find a way to deal with them and maintain a positive attitude through it all. But let’s be real. It’s hard to be all smiley and positive when you cannot get things done. For those days when you don’t have to be positive, this article will provide some ways to bring that positivity back. 

Always remember that you are your biggest supporter 

It’s very normal if you feel down when things are rough around you. In those situations, it’s important to realise that you need to be there for yourself. 

Say positive things to yourself and try to focus less on the negative side of things. It’s a proven fact that saying positive things to yourself once in a while actually helps out a lot to boost confidence. 

It’s important to take moments to yourself and encourage yourself to improve.  Being your own hype person and saying confidence-boosting things to yourself is exactly what you need to get out of all the negative thoughts you are having. 

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Only worry about things that are realistic and doable

Even if you work vigorously for hours, there will be some things you won’t be able to achieve. It’s crucial that you always remember this small fact.

Set up goals for yourself that you are absolutely sure you can achieve. Wanting to do unrealistic things mostly ends in failure which is why you need to avoid that. At the same time, always keep on improving yourself to achieve greater things. 

If you are sure that you can do a certain thing, you won’t lose your positive attitude even if you fail at it. Your goals will be the main inspiration for you and keep you going forward after a setback. Plan out what you want to get and keep working steadily towards it. 

Blaming yourself won’t fix the mistakes

Almost like a natural instinct, most of us blame ourselves as soon as things start to go wrong. This is the first step of losing positivity in yourself.

If you continue to beat yourself up instead of working on making things right, you will never be able to get out of the problem. That’s why trying to focus your efforts on fixing everything rather than blaming yourself for it. 

It’s okay if you analyse what you did wrong for the things to fail then that is fine. But learning from your mistakes is better than holding on to them and blaming yourself for them.

Work on things to improve the end result

As said before, it’s often extremely easy to work yourself up about the failure. It’s always better to focus on the future than worry about something that already happened.

Always try to learn from your mistakes and improve the way you operate. Understand the problems which caused the failure and work on finding a solution to them. Decide on different ways you can fix the issues to provide a better end result. 

Focusing on the past is never the option to be in a good mood. If you want to be more positive and get the work done, you need to start planning your further actions. You can always ask for help when you need but keep in mind that you are the one who needs to work to convert failure into success. 

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Taking a break after a failure is a good thing

You should never really put yourself back in the grind if you fail once. It’s okay to take some time to think about things or just be on your own when you are feeling sad.

Take a break to recharge yourself. Try to relax as much as possible by doing things that entertain you. It can be anything that makes you less stressed and brings a smile to your face. After a good break, you will be much more refreshed to fix things. 

Having some time to be just by yourself plays a big role in building your positive attitude. Allowing yourself to not think about things for a while is always a good thing to do once in a while.

Surround yourself with positive people and things

Our surroundings and the people we live with actually matter a lot. Faster recovery from a setback often is influenced by having good company.

Talk to people that you think are important. Let your frustration out and figure out solutions with their help. Watch positive and happy things that will make your day better. Having a strong support system will always make sure you are as positive as possible at all times. 

Listening to negative stuff all the time can cause you to have a negative attitude yourself. This is exactly why you need to be around positive stuff as much as possible. 

Always focus on the bright side of things

This might make you roll your eyes but this is probably the best way to be positive again. Knowing that there are still things to be grateful for is a good push to help yourself stand again after a failure. 

Even if a small thing goes wrong, be relieved about having a good job or a house to live in. Take failure as an opportunity to learn things in a different way and try out different solutions.

Try to give less attention to negative things or thoughts. Think of them as a way to improve your work and do it better in the future. There is always the next day to do things! 

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On reflection

Difficult times are always going to come in life and you are bound to taste failure in things sometimes. It doesn’t mean that being unsuccessful is the end of the world and there is nothing you can do.

These suggestions have helped a lot of people change the way they think about failure. It has enabled them to get a positive attitude back and face failure in a better way. 

We hope that you are also benefited from some of these and gain a different perspective of failures. Just keep believing in yourself and you will succeed in anything you do!

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